A whole afternoon was spent helping a client and child pack their belongings to run away from home to take shelter at somewhere. In that 2 hours of packing, I nearly wanted to flare. For one, I was fearful that the abusive partner will go home early it will be "all hell break loose"! Two, client was angry and screaming. Three, child was mischievous and wanted to nearly pack the whole house. It was hard keeping my control really. I kept reminding myself that I need to be fully aware that every feelings that I portray plays a part in every situation. More importantly, a controlled person will make "cooler" decisions. *tsk*.. Real tough especially when I know that I am a quick tempered person.
However, what actually helped me control was the belief that under those fiery emotions within client and child, there must be hidden feelings yet told. Client's abusive partner. Child being stuck yet involved. Both staying in the flat the whole of their life and now, a decision is made to move away to start anew. How difficult it must have been like. There was this moment when I placed myself in both their shoes, I shuddered.
My heart pained twice. (1) Behind the screamings and anger, in the midst of the packing, it is SO evident that everything that client did was for the good of the child. So even though client may have been railing about not wanting child, it's superficial. (2) When the child cried feeling the fear of the unknown future yet not wanting client to know.
It was always at the back of my mind the fear that client and child will be at loggerheads. However, at the shelter, I saw child hugged client and kissed client on the cheek. Child ran after Client when Client went to the toilet for fear that Client will run away leaving child alone.
I am sure that beneath words of anger and frustration, there will always be this blood ties that can never separate a parent and a child. I should never ever underestimate the power of that love and bond.
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