Fair

When I started out working with kids, the word "fair" is used often (& almost everyday). Every decision I make, there almost is this fear in me that a kid will scream out "It's unfair!!!".

Really, I am one who is very soft-hearted so it's kind of a difficult position to be in. On one hand, I constantly remind myself to be fair at all times. On the other hand, it's difficult pleasing everyone at all times.

I have, however, learned that "fairness" in the child's perspective is very different from ours. Simply not giving what a child want is already not fair. Then again, not everything the child wants is good for the child! Of which, it's something we, as adults, is able to comprehend & see. Now, I am seeing it more as a "way of discipline". Meaning, sometimes, it's ok to say "No" to a child. Every child has to learn how to accept a "No" graciously. And for the adults, I realized that I just have to live with the fact that at the initial phase, the child will act up, will scream, will ignore you, will shout at you but it's just a process.

Quoting my boss - "Trust the process". The process is, often, tough. However, the fruit of the process is worth the wait.

Now, I am waiting.