Staying Alive

I switched off the TV last night then my doggie jumped up my bed. His paw hit Channel 8 and it brought me to RTM 1. So happened, the show Enough starring Jennifer Lopez started.

I do not know what triggered me to keep it on initially but as it goes along, no matter how tired I was, I finished the whole show.

It was quite a classic show of a wife batterer. J Lo married this man whom she thought is gentle & loving. After her birth, she found that he was having affairs. Confronted him & she got her first bash right across her cheek. The bashing went on & no report was made. Mother does not want to taint the innocent mind of her little girl. & her belief system tells that that the husband who beats her is after all their girl's father. 2 reasons and no PPO (Personal Protection Order) was raised.

Finally, she planned an escape with the help of her friends. Her escape was successful ONLY after getting a few bones fractured. It became a "tour" for mother & daughter moving from one city to another. Finally, she took matters into her own hands & killed her husband on the pretext of manslaughter in the name of self-defense. That was when she got her freedom. [I am not agreeing with murder here. Don't get me wrong.]

Oh yeah..... it's just a show really. Maybe if I had watched this show 4 years ago when it was first out, I would probably think that it's just a show. Today, I have a total different opinion.

I just completed a 3-day Family Violence Intermediate course 2 weeks ago and today's the practicum. In discussion, we spoke about how real our own Belief Systems can bring us down. I was just thinking - If J.Lo, being a battered wife, has put aside her belief system & gone & made a police report, would things have changed? Not like I am hoping for a miracle like a changed husband but perhaps the dynamics of the whole situation when changed will helped? The saddest thing about being beaten is really not about the physical pain. The saddest thing is that the victim is unable to stand up for herself due to certain beliefs like "I deserve it", "The children needs a father.", etc. The emotional pain is even more unbearable than any physical pain.





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