Daddy's the BEST!

Dear darling,

Today, mummy's entry is a tribute to your daddy, the first man in your life.  Your daddy is probably, to me, the most sacrificial man I have ever known.  Sacrificial in many ways.

Knowing that mummy struggled with you during the first month, daddy took 3 whole weeks of leave just so that mummy could be better supported.  I would have to admit that in the first two weeks, I cannot cannot CANNOT imagine how I would have survived if not for your daddy.  I cried every other day, for various reasons like engorgement pains, difficulties latching you on thus leading to pain, guilt for being ill-prepared for your coming due to heavy workload, anger towards self for every other things.  Mummy also had high fever for about 3-4 times during those 3 weeks due to mastitis.  In those times, daddy took care of you fully.  He prepared milk, cuddled you, changed your diaper, wake up every 2-3 hours through the night. 


Subsequently when we moved back to own home, daddy made sure he spent quantity time with you.  Back then, he was still in his old organization where he starts work at 10am.  Thus, the morning bath was always done by daddy.  He always treasures such intimate moments with you.  However, I am also very sure that he wants to bathe you so that he can relieve me of some physical activities as I would be taking care of you through the day till daddy's back from work.  Yes, mummy had pains in my tailbone for quite a while.

Every other hour at work, daddy will drop a message asking "How is my darling?"  At home, he would often whisper in your ears "Daddy loves you very much! Mummy loves you very much too!"  Whenever I discovered something new that you can do, or a new way that I have learned, daddy will excitedly want to try it to when he returns home.

Came to your 2nd month and that month was really a tough month for us.  We had no idea what triggered your crying.  However, a walk along the corridor or staircase climb usually helps.  Having spent one whole day with you, daddy knew mummy would be very tired at night so he tries to always be at home whenever he can so that he can help to carry you walk around (despite having worked one whole day). 

After awhile, we decided to sign up for the baby massage class.  Hearsay that baby massage is very good.  It helps colic and because it involves the sense of touch, it calms a baby down too.  That's when daddy gets so excited each time he gets to bathe you in the morning.  After your morning bath, you are usually in a very good mood and often enjoy a massage.  Sometimes in the evening after your wipe down, we can still squeeze in a massage time if you aren't too tired.

After the 5th or 6th week, daddy fully took over your night feed (before we took turns on a daily basis) because mummy was really very tired having to feed you and then go to another room to express my milk.  Back then, feeding you was also tougher than now (15th week).  You often get frustrated, refusing to sleep after feed.  Mummy then get very frustrated because of the need to express and the need to sleep.  Sometimes, the entire process could easily take up 2 hours of the night.  You seem to take very very well to daddy when daddy started taking over the night feed.  You drank well, sleep well.  I believe daddy is a very patient man and I am sure you were able to feel that patience exuded from daddy as compared to mummy.  (Pray you will forgive me if I get too impatient with you one day!)

Daddy works very very hard to support this family financially. On top of his full time job, he teaches private piano on Tuesday evenings and Saturday mornings.  Not forgetting that above this extra jobs, daddy also plays for God in church on some Sundays.  Whenever daddy plays on that Sunday, he would need to attend a band practice on either Thursday or Friday night.

All that's said, daddy's also not someone you can tread upon.  If there is a need to discipline you (yes, it starts from young), he would do it - right from the very basics of not playing with your milk.  :)

This is your daddy, my darling.  One who is willing to sacrifice for you and mummy.  One who is responsible towards his piano students and church.  Despite his tiredness, he never once complained that he doesn't want to teach or play on Sunday.  You see, daddy always see the importance of serving God.  Not that God really require daddy to serve but it's in serving God that daddy learns more of God's love.

Darling, such is the extent of daddy's love for us.  I will share with you more of daddy's goodness in time to come... For now, you just need to know that we are more than blessed to have this man in our life.

Love you my little one..