Why, Why and How

I spent some time on my bed staring up at the sky last night. It was a great sky with a few twinkling stars. I had a chat with God or rather, I had a small debate with God. I asked "Why does victims of domestic violence or any kind of violence continue to stay in the painful relationship or even escalating it to a marriage knowing full well that he/she will be a violent partner to be with?", "Why does some who has already broken free physically from such bondages take a long time to let go of the past?" and more so than ever, my main question was "How to help victims be overcomers of their circumstances?"

Excerpts from journal of yesternight...

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Letting go is indeed really not easy. Putting down baggages that may have become our insecurity is not easy though at the back of our minds, we want to put it down. In fact, I feel that if caring or loving a person is my life's greatest challenge, letting go of something that was impactful to my life will probably be the next on the list. If not, on par.

At a certain point of time, something that happen in anybody's life or even someone who stepped into my life may have impacted or leave a deep imprint that may cause great happiness or, to another extreme, great sadness.

Hmm.. I guess, letting go is likened to discipline. Discipline is required in my life because there's something that has been happening previously which I was not happy about thus I discipline myself to gear towards improvement. To give up something of the past to build a better "habit" of the future. Usually, discipline is often to cultivate a good habit isn't it?

I reckon, that if victims of family violence wants to break free emotionally, it takes a whole lot of discipline (e.g. discipline to go for counselling, therapy, be with good company, etc) and it takes a whole lot of effort! And the whole process IS painful!!!

*sigh* Father... I truly want thank you. You said that when You sent Jesus to die on the cross for me, You have washed me clean. And I know for sure that you have plans for me. A future that is bright and prosperous! Plans that will never ever harm me! Though I am not a victim of FV and may not fully understand what they are going through, I pray that you give me a heart of empathy and wisdom to know how to bring Your love and Your wonderful plans to them.

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