A Special Wedding

In a span of 2 weeks, I attended 2 polytechnic friends' wedding. I noticed a trend in the weddings which I attended. Other than church friends, my other "outside" friends, I am normally their "individual" friends. Meaning - I do not belong to any group of her friends. Which also means that I am usually alone sitting at the table.

This wedding though alone, was very special to me. It was the bride's mother who requested that I have to be there.

Unfortunately, I was late due to some reasons. Heehee.. Whilst I was driving there, my friend called me asking me if I am coming cause the ceremony will be starting soon. For the first time in my life, the bride is calling me to ensure that I will be there so that she can start the ceremony. I felt a mixture of - guilt at being late & touched at her gesture. When I arrived, I couldn't find a parking space at the hotel so I have to park elsewhere. I was quite panic. When I reached there, the banquet manager asked me if I want to see the bride. Of course, right?! Gave her a hug and apologized.

Now... what really caused me to flip was when her mother saw me, she exclaimed and hugged and hugged and still hugged. Shared about my life in as short as I can and gave her another hug. As I was about to walk back to my table guided by the banquet manager, she told me she wants to bring me to the table. She made sure I sat down & ate some food.

I was truly dumbfounded.

Today, I found myself sitting at a table with 7 others who's my friend's 1st year classmate. I seemed to be the only 2nd year classmate. I knew all of them but of course, not well at all. I do not really know their lingo as well since they have been meeting up even after graduation so there is this form of closeness between them..

Even though I drank and ate more than I talked, in those moments of silence at the table, I took time out to reminisce a little about my friendship with the bride. The incident with her mother sort of threw me off the edge and impacted me greatly. Slowly, I began to remember things. Trust me, humans really has the ability to forget things if he/she wants to. I had a bad quarrel with this friend of mine when we were in year 3 Poly and no matter how we tried, we could not bring the closeness back to what we were before the quarrel. However, before that, we were indeed very close. I go to her place often. I remember chatting with her mother and yes! Her brother! I dote on her brother quite a bit.

There are indeed times when I wished that things were still the same. However, I guess that changes are for better learning and for growth in all aspects of our life.